Growing up in a world where the perfect bodies are defined in magazines can be a little upsetting at times. For those who deal with a lack of self confidence, this can be a huge thing contributing to why they have such low confidence and self esteem. It is important that we know that those girls in magazines are beautiful in their own way, but that we are beautiful in our own way as well.
The struggle of having low self confidence is something that most people go through at least once in their life. Many men grow up feeling like they have to be sporty, and have big muscles. Many men don’t play sports and don’t have muscles and some may be very insecure about that because we’ve grown up in a society where we are expected to do things just by our gender or to look a certain way because that’s how other people look. We are all special in our own ways and we all have someone who loves us no matter who we are or what we look like. It is so important to love yourself and care about yourself.
Things can get hard and sometimes we can experience unbearable pain but when things like that happen, we can’t start to hate ourselves because you have to know that people make mistakes and that you are just human. It’s okay to make mistakes, and it’s okay to not do everything right all the time–it happens. So many females do whatever they can to change their appearance because they are so unhappy with what they look like, but that should not be the case. You are so beautiful. Everyone in this world has beauty, it just takes the right person to see it.
You have so much potential in this world and nothing should make you think otherwise. Same goes to men: you have so much to live for and maybe you’re not that happy with yourself now but before you know it, things will get better and you will love who you are. Loving yourself is so important and vital, so don’t let society’s standards make you feel any less beautiful than you are because you are amazing. If you’re struggling with having confidence in yourself, keep reading below.
1. Kill Negative Thoughts
Now, we all know that no matter how hard we try to get all the negativity out of our lives, it always somehow creeps back into our lives–it is inevitable. We can’t control the negative people around us, but we can control how we react to them and the negativity that they are bringing. When trying to boost your self-confidence you have to try to push anything negative out of your life so that you can experience all the positive energy. In doing this, you will feel happier and more relaxed.
If you happen to be insecure about what you look like, start by changing the way you see yourself. Every day that you wake up and look in the mirror, tell yourself that you are beautiful, you have potential, and that you are amazing. Push all the negative thoughts away and really inhale all the great things about yourself–not the negative.
2. Stand Tall
When it comes to having self-confidence, you have to believe in yourself and know your worth. Everyone has opinions of you and some of them are not going to be positive. We can’t expect them all to be great things. Not everyone is going to like you. Spend time with those who DO like and appreciate you. If you’re a teenager, then you know that keeping good self-confidence can be a challenge, especially during your high school years.
Always stand tall and don’t allow what others say destroy your confidence. Stand up for yourself, and always believe in yourself even when it seems impossible to do. Once you start to stand up for yourself and believe in yourself, that is the time when your confidence level starts rising. Believe that you are incredible and not what others say about you.
3. Commit Yourself To Success
Never give up on what you are trying to succeed in, regardless of how many times you fail and don’t get the outcome you want. Building your self confidence is hard to do, but pushing yourself to exceed your own expectations will surprise you in ways you can’t imagine. Once you succeed and accomplish the goal you have been working at, you will feel proud of yourself and know that all of your hard work paid off and that you can do it!
There is a solution to everything, and that is exactly why you should never give up. When we work on something for a long time and keep failing at it, we start to think that we are not good enough and that we will not achieve our goal–but we don’t want those thoughts. Don’t accept that you didn’t achieve your goal. Keep trying until you reach it. Doing this will help you feel better about yourself.
4. Recognize Your Insecurities
We all are born with things that we don’t like about ourselves, and sometimes we feel like our insecurities are defining who we are. We feel that other people only see us for what we are not good at or what we don’t have. Everyone has something that makes you feel ashamed of yourself; this can be anything from acne, to the way you walk, or even your voice.
Whatever your insecurities are, write them down on a piece of paper and rip them up. This is just one of many methods you can employ to help you understand that you are not those things you are insecure about. Surround yourself with empowering people who will make you feel good about who you are and not those who will bring you down. Accept your flaws and love who you are.
5. Take Care Of Yourself
If you want to feel good about yourself, then you have to take care of yourself. In order to do that you have to do some simple daily tasks. Brushing your teeth, brushing your hair, and bathing are all important. Also, eating healthy is a big factor in taking care of yourself. If you feel insecure about your body, eating healthy is guaranteed to help you feel better about yourself. Put some effort into your appearance. I’m not saying that you have to look like a supermodel or Brad Pitt, but once you start putting some effort into your appearance, you will feel better about yourself. Sleep well. When you sleep well it can make you feel and look better the next day; having good sleep patterns will help you have a positive attitude and more energy throughout the day.
Staying active improves your all-round confidence. More importantly than physical attributes, this includes heightening your mental wellbeing. For most, it’s difficult to find the time and energy to commit your life to exercise, though when you accept that you’re worth this commitment, you prove your self-worth.
With regular exercise, you’ll begin to see physical changes that flick a switch in your brain that says you’re possible of anything. When you set personal goals and work hard to achieve them, there’s nothing that’s out of your reach. Over time, you’ll start becoming more aware of how you feel in your own skin and develop strategies to work on the areas that put limitations on your confidence. Exercise also produces endorphins, a feel-good stimulant, that changes your energy levels and entire attitude on life. Suddenly, you become physically and mentally stronger that makes you feel like you can accomplish anything.
7. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
With everything readily available to us online, we can easily see the highlights and triumphs in everyone else’s life that can lead us to believe we’re living a worthless existence. What if you put your phone down and stopped engaging with people who compare their lives to others? With this theory in mind, we believe you’d begin to pay attention to your own skills and achievements, rather than others.
It’s healthy to celebrate other people’s attributes, though this shouldn’t lead you to reflect on your own, because life isn’t a race. Take a step back from the areas of your life that make you doubt your own self-worth. This might involve disengaging with certain social groups, living offline, and watching different TV shows. By having fewer outlets to compare yourself to, you’ll begin to work on your own developments and successes.
If you are still feeling bad about who you are (even after reading these seven ways to boost your self-confidence), I strongly recommend these two videos below. If you are having a bad day and are feeling unhappy or unloved, click on these videos below and listen.
Here is a video for women:
Here is a similar video for men: